Q: How do we seat divorced parents?
A: Seat the parent that primarily raised you (and their spouse) in the front pew. You can seat the other parent in the third row, giving a little space between the two. If your parents get along, they may all opt to sit in the first row or in the first two rows. At the reception, seat the parents at their own tables.

Q: I'm remarrying. Can you give me some guidelines on what is acceptable and what is not?

Announcing the Engagement
If either of you have children, let them know first. Then tell your parents and families. If you have children with an ex, let them know about your engagement, too.

Registering for gifts
It is acceptable to register for gifts. You may have all the furnishings, linens and china that you need, but there are alternative registeries -- wine, books, sporting equipment, mortgages, honeymoons and home improvemnt supplies.

Attire
White in the past has been used to connote purity, but these days, it is okay to wear white even if it is your second marriage. However, many second-time brides still choose a shade of cream, offwhite or light color. However, etiquette experts say a veil is only appropriate for first-time brides.

Wedding
The size of the wedding is up to the couple. Though some couples may choose to have a smaller, more intimate wedding, if you want a big one, go ahead. Most remarrying couples don't have as many as many attendants as many first-time couples do.

Including Children
You can include your children in your wedding in many ways. They can be part of the wedding party, they can be readers -- they can even escort the bride down the aisle. Some families add a special family vow or prayer after the bride and groom's exchange of vows, reinforcing new family ties. Discuss your ideas with your children and don't force them into any role they are uncomfortable with.